How to Write After Facing Rejection from a Publishing Company

Writers can face many rejections through their careers, such as rejection from a publishing company, a book not selling as well as an author thought it would, or even disapproval from friends and family. Sometimes writers may get discouraged from these rejections, but none of these should stir that writer away from writing what they have to write. It’s fine to get discouraged, but perseverance is key. But how does a writer do that when they’re told by a publishing company, “We just didn’t connect with the material?” Let me break that down for you.

J.K. Rowling is by far one of the most prolific writers who ever lived. Harry Potter is beloved by millions and has garnered billions of dollars in revenue not only for her, but for her publisher as well. However, Rowling was rejected 12 times before she finally found a publisher who would take a chance on her, an unpublished author at the time. And even though she was broke, that didn’t stop her. She had the passion to continue her project that they thought was nothing more than a joke. The publishers didn’t think that a young boy with a wand and a fat man with long hair and a beard could succeed in a book. And with her endless perseverance, all it took was one yes. Afterwards, Harry Potter and J.K. Rowling became household names. She faced the pain and didn’t let it stop her, just as your pain and failures shouldn’t stop you.

Publishing companies are shrewd. There are only so many books that they can accept, and that number is no where near the amount of submissions they receive. That shouldn’t discourage you as there are alternative routes that writers can take, such as self-publishing. Maybe this route won’t give you the millions you dream of making, but if it gets your work of art in front of a reader, it is a success. I have been an Independent writer for most of my writing career, and I have faced criticism from those who have read my books. That it is a part of writing. I heard somewhere before, whether they criticize you or compliment you, you are doing something right. It means they are giving your work attention. 

The most important thing is to not let rejection stop you. Write anyway. Use the frustration and let it fuel your writing. Instead of feeling down and depressed that your work hasn’t been accepted, keep writing anyway. All it takes is one ‘yes.’ And if not, self-publish. For more tips on writing, check out my audiobook, Your Writing: Tips on Making Your Amazon Kindle Book Great, narrated by Chiquito Joaquim Crasto.  It is a short audiobook on the process of making a Kindle book, which is a good start in writing an independent book.

Don’t get discouraged by a publishing rejection; writers have many options besides big publishers. And remember that the most successful writers never walked away from their passion, no matter how hard life got for them.

How to Get Comfortable Writing in an Uncomfortable Place

You have only a short time to write. You’re far from home so you can’t go to your usual Starbucks. And unfortunately, you have to write today, because the rest of your week is taken up by family plans, work-related things, and a doctors appointment. There’s a coffee shop around the corner that you’ve never been to before. You feel a flash of anxiety at the thought of writing in a new place. How do you calm yourself down to write when, by the time you get settled in, it will be time to go?

Something I’ve learned in the past few years is how to overcome negative feelings and writing when it was uncomfortable to write. Sometimes dealing with the crowd and the noise of a new place can distract you from your goal. So, how do you settle down to write with all these anxieties?

Breathing Exercises

When you feel anxious, trying focus on your breathing. Certain breathing exercises can help center yourself and help you not to feel as anxious. That feeling of centeredness can help you to focus your emotions, and as a result, your writing. 

Listen to Relaxing Music

They say music soothes the savage beast, and often listening to music can help your writing mood. As a bonus, it can also spark the muse and improve your writing. Some relaxing music can settle your mind, allowing you to block out the distractions around you, and let you concentrate on your writing.

Don’t Force Yourself

In other words, relax. Sometimes this is easier said than done, especially in a particularly strong bout of anxiety. But when we relax, our flow state comes much more naturally, and the stress just melts away.

If you’re unable to relax, then maybe it’s just your body telling you it doesn’t want to write right now. Maybe now is a good time to journal. Use that chance to get your emotions out onto paper instead of letting them eat away in your head. Who knows, maybe it will create a brainstorm for your next project.

When you are stressed out in an uncomfortable place you may not write well.  That’s no reason to panic! If you get stressed, try talking it out.  There are plenty of people in your life you can open up to about your problems; even some of the folks at Joe’s Writers’ Club would be happy to lend an ear.  Come check it out! We share some information that may help you feel relaxed and overcome your writing fears. It is up to you to do it and follow through. Joe’s Writers’ Club has been very supportive of my writing and has helped me gain my confidence. They will be supportive of your endeavors, too.

Bottom line, writing is not supposed to be stressful. However, sometimes it can be. So the best thing to do is take it easy and relax. Using some of these skills will help you ease into writing. 

How to Write When You Have Anxiety

What happens if you offend your boss or your company? How about if you offend your significant other, your family, or your friends in your writing? What if there was a backlash involved? You may start to develop anxiety and have a grave fear over your next post. You may wonder if you are going to write again because of that fear, especially if that blog post is on Twitter or Facebook. In drastic instances, you may even end up getting fired. Many famous people lost their celebrity endorsements because they said the wrong thing or went hysterical and offended someone. But then the anxiety settles in and there is fear. How do you recover from anxiety and fear over writing again?

When you have anxiety and fear about your next writing project, there are several steps you can take in overcoming it. First, if the anxiety is severe enough, seek professional help, such as a therapist. They can help you overcome your anxieties.

You can also seek out a life coach to help overcome anxiety. One example of a life coach is Anthony Robbins. Coaches help you to overcome that fear by helping you to embrace the challenges you may face with writing. Maybe you can’t overcome it right away, but you will be able to deal with it. 

If a professional life coach is not a viable option, you can always try motivational tapes, like the Anthony Robbins Personal Power Series. It came out in the 1980s, and many people have been helped by the series. It talks about Neuro-Linguistic Programming and how people get programmed. These same people have had bad experiences so they stick to comfortable experiences as a way to avoid anxiety. This program is helpful because it allows users to identify that programming and change. These programs take time, but the techniques have been effective. 

Also, a few books that are helpful are The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life and Everything Is F*cked by Mark Manson and How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie. These books have proven helpful to me. They broke down the worries and helped me to get out of my own way. They also help readers to gain the courage to act. In one of Manson’s stories from The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*cK, he wrote about Charles Bukowski and his fight to write. Bukowski spent many days on the streets homeless and drunk because he sacrificed to keep writing and working on books that were not very successful. But he didn’t care about his financial security; he would rather do something he loved such as write rather than work at the post office where he was miserable everyday. Eventually, his hard work paid off. Like he stated in his poem, “If you are going to go all the way, go all the way.” Charles Bukowski went all the way. 

Sometimes you have to face your fears of rejection, humiliation, and anxiety to be able to write again. Fear will keep you down, and it will act like poison to the writer which is why it is good to use some of these techniques to get your writing back again. There are many other books besides the one I listed about that might help you face those fears.

Anxiety can be a troubling thing to many writers, but don’t lose hope. There is always help. You can be encouraged to do what you love again. Many writers or authors have had fears or anxieties of publishing and many have fears of even writing that prevent them from doing so. Some say, “I will write,” but fear the process and fear the rejection. Writers need the ability to face rejection. Some projects will fail; that is a part of life. But it takes a strong person to gain courage again for the next story. 

A little story of mine is that when I made some unfavorable, hysterical blog posts that got me in trouble. I faced the ridicule from friends and family that followed. Most of that stuff I could have left in a personal journal just for me. As a result, I started to develop a fear of posting my writing to the public. It was a trying time for me as a writer. But through encouragement and good support, I gained the courage to publish my work again. Facing anxieties and fears as a writer is not easy, but gaining the courage and posting to write is worth it. Think of all the lives that will be touched with your testimony when making a comeback to writing. Also, it is something that you can be proud of when you do start writing again.

Writing When You Can’t Go To Your Favorite Place Anymore

You have been going to your local coffee shop like Starbucks to write. Or maybe you enjoy writing at local library. Then all of a sudden the Coronavirus hits. You are thrusted into writing in an environment you don’t want to write in. You have to write at home, which isn’t always good, especially when aggravation rises from being cooped up with your family. When you are in lockdown and can’t go to where you want to go, it sucks. Then things started opening up and you could write outside, but that leads to swatting at flies, dodging bees, or running away from spiders. Safe to say, you have trouble concentrating during this time. So what do you do? How do you keep your confidence up in a time that doesn’t look good?

With any lockdown situation, you have to make the best of a worst situation. This is what Joe’s Writers’ Club did. What turned into an in-person meeting became an online presence. The meeting stayed open and we continued to meet virtually. We started Google Chats with each other and used other means of communication such as Zoom.  Everyone has been working hard at putting a product out there that can help writers of all kinds. 

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Joe’s Writers’ Club has improved my confidence.  It has helped me to work and contribute to a cause greater than my own.  Even with Corona going on, it didn’t stop me as a writer. It was just a matter of facing the storm. Sometimes as a writer we have to get comfortable writing somewhere new. Times are rough right now, but if your family is interrupting your writing, you can use a pair of headphones to avoid their distraction. I know it’s not easy, but sooner or later things will get better.

You probably had a favorite place that went to everyday, and unfortunately, some businesses closed down permanently. Maybe even your favorite coffee shop. But it’s best to not get discouraged. You will find a new place when this pandemic is over. And you may have to try different places to find out which one feels best for you. For now, that’s not so easy. Lots of places, like Starbucks, are still not allowing people to stay inside for long periods of time. So unless you’ve found comfort at home or in a park, writing hasn’t been the easiest.

Thankfully, the worst may have passed with all of the vaccines that have been administered. (I’m not saying if getting vaccinated is right or wrong; that decision is yours to make.) All I’m saying is maybe in time we will write where we did before, but as of now with a writer it is a matter of learning to be comfortable writing in uncomfortable places. It just takes stepping out of your comfort zone to get to the point where you feel at ease. Maybe a library is open. Maybe you can sit outside a coffee house. Just don’t lose hope. Things will get better.